I just got finished looking at a post from Jen at Still Looking Up. In which, she spoke about swimming in the nice summer weather we had last week. But yesterday, here in Ontario, we came back down to earth with some more seasonal weather. And of course, yesterday Jacob wanted to go swimming. So we got dressed and ready, and we walked the block to the local rec centre to do some swimming.
Once there, something amazing happened. There was this class mate of Jacob's, who always asks Jacob to play when we go to the pool. Jacob always says "No thanks." And the classmate is very understanding about Jacob's condition and refusal to play. But yesterday was different. The class mate had no one to play with so Jacob decided to play with the classmate in the pool. I was shocked This is the first time that Jacob has ever willingly played with someone in the pool. Most kids don't understand that Jacob is different from regular kids, and they can sometimes withdraw from playing with Jacob. Jacob doesn't mind, but it does have an adverse affect on me. After all, Jacob is my son and I want him to be accepted for who he is, so when he isn't, it hits home with me. So when I saw Jacob playing with his classmate, it was fantastic. Together they played catch, volley ball and monkey in the middle (of course I was the monkey the whole time), but I loved it. It was so nice to see Jacob and a friend just laughing and having a good time.
I also thought it was amazing that an 8 year old could be so understanding about Jacob's personality. The classmate was totally entertaining Jacob and the classmate and I both enjoyed it. The classmate would throw the ball and Jacob would swim after it and hit it back. While Jacob was swimming after the ball, his classmate would tell me things like "Jacob was mad in school today", "he threw his stuff on the floor" or " he yelled at the teacher". The classmate thought it was so funny how Jacob acted, but I think the classmate understands that Jacob is a bit different. Which is amazing.
It was so nice to see Jacob interacting with this classmate and I'm glad the classmate is as mature as they are. Which seems weird considering the classmates age. This classmate is always saying "Hi" to Jacob and always asks Jacob to play along or join in the game that they may be involved in, which is nice. Most kids would ask Jacob to play once and never again. Some might even see Jacob's behaviour in class and not want to play with him at all, so it was nice to see them playing together in the pool.
After swimming, I told Jacob that he should play with the classmate at school more often and he said that he would. He also talked about how nice his classmate is and that he really had fun playing together. So I took the opportunity to explain that it's okay to play with other kids, to which he replied that he would. I'm so thankful that the classmate is so accepting of Jacob, which is a trait that even some adults lack. It was so nice that it almost brought a tear to my eye, because after all, we just want our kids to be accepted for who they are. Hopefully this is a sign of good things to come.
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"It seems that for success in science and art, a dash of autism is essential." Dr Hans Asperger 1906-1980