So yesterday I called ahead to make sure things were more quiet. When we got to the rec centre, there was only about 15 people in the whole pool. Then as Jacob and I were playing, I made the ultimate mistake. I splashed Jacob in the face and water got into his eyes.
Let me tell you, that Jacob was furious. I know that Jacob doesn't like to be splashed, but when you're swimming, not splashing can be kind of difficult. So as Jacob sat on the edge of the pool (and a meltdown) one of his school friends began to talk to him about what happened.
Friend: "Jacob, you shouldn't yell at your dad because it can embarrass him and make him angry."
Jacob: "But he splashed water in my eyes!"
Friend: "Then you should get your mom, to take you to the dollar store downtown, and get some goggles so that water won't get into your eyes."
And Jacob's behaviour and emotions took a turn for the better. Had I had that exact conversation with Jacob, he would have exploded, and he would've likely swore off swimming for ever. But it was like the friend totally hit home and made Jacob realise that he wasn't behaving and that there was a simple solution to his problem.
That kid should totally become an EA for kids with ASDs or something like that. The kid was maybe 10 years old, but was in tune with Jacob. Which to me was amazing. Once Jacob realised what the kid was saying he jumped back into the pool and was fine for the rest of the swim.
Then Jacob asked me if he could tell mom about what happened. Jacob often wants to share his experiences with his mother, especially if I do something wrong. When he told Shannie about what happened and their upcoming trip downtown, she too was pleased. But when I offered to take Jacob downtown for lunch and goggles, he said "No way."
And when I asked why not? He told me because it was mom who had to bring him to get goggles, and not me. Oh well. I'm sure I can come for the walk, but my only worry is that when Shannie goes to the dollar store, it often costs more than a dollar.
|Here's Jacob playing at the park. Sorry, but we can't use a camera at the pool.|